Living with poor income and provision, lower economic level and humiliation and how they are caused by misbehavior with one’s parent!
There are many Hadiths, which are narrated from Imams (as) about being good and kind to parents and the positive results in life. The contrary, or the negative results of disobeying them are also highlighted. Imam Ali al-Hadi (as) in the book ‘Bihar al-Anwar’ [(published in Beirut), vol. 71, p. 84], has narrated:: العقوق يعقب القلة و يؤدي إلى الذلة. “Annoying the parents creates misery and humiliation”. The prophet Muhammad has said: مَنْ أَحْزَنَ وَالِدَيْهِ فَقَدْ عَقَّهُمَا “The one, who makes his parents deeply saddened, he has annoyed them” [Al-‘agh])
Annoying the parents -whether by word, behavior, or due to neglecting or displaying carelessness with them,- causes misery in life. And vice versa showing kindness to them causes various blessings -both material and spiritual-, extending income, and longevity. (In fact, the meaning of parents is any parents; regardless of their literacy or illiteracy, and desirable or undesirable behaviors. From Imam Sadiq (as), is narrated: و بِرُّ الوالدين بَرَّينِ كانا او فاجِرَين! (اصول کافی: ج2: 162) . This means: do good to your parents whether they are loose-living or good-doers; unless they drive their child to associate anything with polytheism, i.e. accepting a rival to God, which he has no knowledge of, in which case, one must not obey them! Also, in this case there will be no bad or evil actions, rather just as Ibraham (as) kept away while maintaining respect for him. There are some children, who, due to the lack of emotional feeling, -perhaps as a result of failed parental responsibility and remaining dissatisfied with their own parents in the past, or other undesirable behaviors- do not want to interact with them, nor treat them kindly! However, the purpose of kindness to parents, is being obedient to the divine command; as the Qur’an refers to this: (his Mother bore him with hardship and delivered him with hardship (Ahqaf: 15)), that is, whatever includes all the mothers, so that if someone neglects them, it is a disobedience to God’s command. This is because in His verses of the Holy Qur’an, God has put a lot of importance and emphasis on people being kind to parents either through kind acts, or polite words! One should never become angry nor even look at them fully loaded with hatred. Whoever disregards the important commandments of God has been engaged with the devil’s temptations! These include evil thoughts caused by one’s ego, or the people around him/her encouraging him to be disrespectful with the parents! Some may be tempted to think that his needs, work, family life …etc. are more important than God’s commandments, and thus disregard the command of God. In any case, one who disregards God’s commands and puts other things in priority of God’s commands, whether work and income, wealth, child, couple, etc., should never expect his/her prayers to be accepted, nor his demands from the Almighty God to fulfilled. For the Lord has said: “… fulfil My agreement! I shall fulfil your covenant. (Baqareh: 40)”. So we must act: opening the doors of blessings on ourselves with kindness to prevent and engaging kinds of problems, loss of income and sustenance, defects and humiliation through annoying them.
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